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that I am sure you agree often exists between Africans and African Americans.

Now, are the aforementioned tasks and attributes a sure sign of being anti-feminist?

Not always, but sometimes I feel that when dating African men there is not too much room for compromise on the woman’s side. To say that you hate cooking, will be no one’s assistant for under $70 000 a year, or that you are not interested in being someone’s mother is romantic suicide on this continent.

Still, throughout Africa our brothers and sisters tie feminism to western voodoo, a type of evil cult that tells African women it is okay to be unmarried, focused on your career and not on procreation, or that the institution of patriarchy in Africa may actually be – shocker – detrimental. First, every African man wants a cook, like his mama.

So imagine the struggle of being a self-proclaimed feminist, raised and educated in the US, now living back on the continent, trying to date African men. It seems as though African men on the continent, even those who’ve returned from university or work abroad, have an image of their perfect woman, and she is definitely not a feminist. Meaning girls, be ready to chip that manicure-peeling cassava and you better pick up his plate when dinner is done. A woman that will check on his family, make sure his mom has all her prescriptions, remember his little sister’s birthday and ensure that his favourite suits are ready for that business trip the next week.

I would define feminism as a woman who takes gender seriously and addresses discrepancies between the sexes throughout her everyday life.

Feminism, as many of us daughters of Africa know, is taboo on the continent.

He was a first time client, so we began to chit chat as I worked on his papers.