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Dating 4 kids

They might be challenged enough being financially responsible for their own kids, if they have any.

I have friends who have gotten upset because a woman they are dating has to drop everything for their child. A woman should not be placed in a position to choose between the child she loves and the man she likes.

If you don’t understand that, then you aren’t ready for this type of relationship and it is best if you do not bother wasting her time or yours. I’ve written on whether you need the baby’s father approval before — and for the record, no you do not.

People without children don’t have much of a concept of what it’s like to be tethered to home for feeding, napping, school, and extracurricular activities. And because you keep choosing men without kids, you’ve come to the conclusion that the Brady Bunch life is a fantasy. He has to understand that, as a parent, you need a little slack, because you don’t control your own schedule.

Hate to tell you, sweetie, but the reason that the Brady Bunch is NOT a fantasy is because both Mike and Carol HAD kids. The tone of your email suggests that because I am a single guy who found love with a childless woman that my advice is invalid to you. Everyone likes to think her situation is particularly unique. Advice for women over 50 is almost identical to advice for women under 50.

However, there are a few things childless men should keep in mind when deciding whether they are ready to date a woman with a child, or children. Figure out if you like or want kids BEFORE dating a woman with children.

When you are single and looking to mingle, you generally will not hurt anyone if you start dating “just to see where things go.” Plenty of men do this all the time.

Soon enough you’re going to resent one of them, if not both, and the idea of bringing your children along for dates is not really something acceptable.

So you can talk about what your dating life as a single man was like –you wanted a woman who you could have children with, so you probably didn’t date women with children and if you did you soon found out that they needed to be thrown back.

This is not a video game that you can turn off when you decide you do not like how the game is playing out.

That is a personal decision you should figure out long before you involve a woman and her child in your life.

We are all free to make up whatever dating preferences we want.